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Though I was little, I thought our family was complete 鈥� until my mom got pregnant with my youngest sister, who she swears was not an accident. Looking at the timeline I have to believe her, but back then, I didn鈥檛. The next two decades were idyllic, as we sisters got along very well. Unfortunately, both our grandparents passed away while we were in our teens.

Now our mom is unwell, and we are spending as much time with her as we can. Recently she spoke privately to our middle sister, and something has changed. That sister has become withdrawn, sad and my youngest sister and I can鈥檛 tell if she鈥檚 angry with us or simply pulling away. We love her and she鈥檚 our best friend. How can we get that message across to her not knowing what鈥檚 going on in her head?

Three Sisters

础听Obviously whatever your mom told your middle sister it鈥檚 not sitting well with her. You can only surmise it has to do with her adoption, but you don鈥檛 know that for fact.

Sounds like your focus should be on your mom right now, because if she鈥檚 having private chats with your sister, my guess is she鈥檚 not going to be around much longer. You could ask her what she told your sister, but don鈥檛 be offended if she opts not to share.

I suggest you speak to your sister and tell her you love her no matter what your mom told her. That if she feels like she needs to unburden, or simply share, you鈥檇 be willing to listen. But conversely, if she wants to keep whatever secret she鈥檚 holding, you won鈥檛 be offended. And mean it.

蚕听Years ago, my sister did some modelling for a guy who said he would take the photos for free to help her get an agent. He was a friend of a friend so she trusted him. It worked and she started modelling with an agency. That agency had her flying all over Europe, doing some great shoots and making a decent amount of money.

She then met her boyfriend, a photographer on one of her shoots. They鈥檝e been together a year and have a secure relationship. He鈥檚 a lovely guy.

Just recently, a friend of his stumbled across photos of my sister, with little to no clothing on her body. The crazy thing is she never posed naked. These photos were manipulated after the fact. She鈥檚 devastated. What do we do about that?

Not Her Body

础听That鈥檚 terrifying and disgusting. It鈥檚 incredible what people can do with technology and the internet. I spoke with local police authorities, and they suggested your sister call in with more details. If the friend is asking for money to take the photos down, that鈥檚 extortion. If he just stumbled upon them and is letting her know, then she needs to figure out a way to have them taken down. So she needs more information, and the police can get involved if necessary.

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