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How do I get her to understand that some things are not meant for public review or commentary?

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A Tricky. It sounds to me as though your wife knows exactly what will annoy you and she is creating public content purposefully to get your goat. This isn鈥檛 going to bode well for a healthy future and a healthy relationship.

I strongly suggest the two of you sit down with a marriage counsellor to understand boundaries and rules of engagement, and give each other the opportunity to discuss your grievances with a third party present so no one walks away, dismisses the other鈥檚 issues or loses their cool.

Q We have always been a double-income family, with who is bringing in more fluctuating, but not greatly, and we’re often on par. We share in the payment of bills, expenses, children鈥檚 activities, etc. Even during the years that my wife was on mat leave, we created a balance when she returned to work, and I went on paternal leave.

Most unfortunately, she was recently made redundant at her workplace. Besides the obvious personal kick in the pants, this financial loss has created huge stress between us. I am now carrying the load and it鈥檚 a lot!

I have no doubt that she will be able to find work in her field of expertise, but it won鈥檛 happen overnight. And it鈥檚 very difficult to make cuts and changes at this time of year, at this time in our family鈥檚 life cycle. Not to mention that the price of everything has seemingly doubled!

But in the meantime, we are both stressed to the max, fighting and annoyed with each other. I am certain that the children are feeling the ice in the air. How can we maintain our loving relationship amidst all this stress?

DINC No More

A Financial stress is one of the leading causes of divorce today. You鈥檙e not alone. The key is not to let external problems become internal problems 鈥� which is very hard to do. But the world is full of issues, from the global all the way down to the personal, which can affect anyone. The key is to support each other in your time of need, and there will almost always be a time of need.

Your wife may be feeling the negative effects of losing her job, but tomorrow something could happen that affects you. Be there for each other even when you鈥檙e suffering yourself, and especially when the issue affects you both.

Work together as a team to overcome, push through and rise above the trials and tribulations of the world and all its intricacies.

FEEDBACK Regarding internal gas (June 6):

Reader:聽鈥淩ecently, you’ve had two letters about partners passing foul-smelling gas when they sleep. I used to have this problem, especially after eating onions, broccoli or anything sweet. A friend told me about Acidophilus Bifidus for intestinal health, and I haven’t had a problem since I started using it. I hope this will help your readers.鈥�

Reader 2:聽鈥淗appens for both sexes. Try Beano.鈥�

FEEDBACK Regarding the women who are too drunk (June 14):

Reader: 鈥淚t appears all the women involved were too drunk. Too drunk for secrets. Too drunk to drive. Too drunk to make good decisions. If they are old enough to be drinking, to be in a bar, to be engaged, to have affairs, then they鈥檙e old enough to drink responsibly.

鈥淚n my opinion, drinking too much and causing problems in relationships is part of the problem here.

鈥淚 worked serving in bars for 10 years and pouring tastings at a winery for eight years. Groups of women drinking heavily are just as disgusting as groups of men drinking heavily. (I left the business because this degree of drunk seems to have become acceptable.)聽

鈥淓xcessive drinking leads to unfortunate consequences.聽The writer and her friends need to know when too much is too much.鈥澛�