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We called the last place we鈥檇 been, but they didn鈥檛 have it. So we called the ride-share service. Thankfully we were still altogether, because they would only speak to the person who had ordered the car. We were told they would call the driver and call us back.

We never heard back, but then my friend received a $450 charge on her card for 鈥渄amage鈥� to the car. When she called back, they said the driver claims one of us threw up in the car, which is a blatant lie.

How do we deal with this?

UBER-annoyed

础听Dealing with ride-share services can be painful because it鈥檚 very hard to get an actual human on the phone.

You鈥檒l need to speak to a supervisor or manager. I don鈥檛 know how they prove who vomited or how you prove it wasn鈥檛 you, but I鈥檓 guessing that鈥檚 what鈥檒l have to happen.

If you know a lawyer, I suggest you ask them. They may be able to help.

蚕听My daughter is in her early 20s, lives at home when not away at university and is still a financial dependent. That鈥檚 not my issue, as that鈥檚 been our choice and we鈥檙e financially able to do that.

My issue is her clothing choices. As a preteen and teenager she was chubby. I鈥檓 a heavy woman, as is my husband, and I guess we just didn鈥檛 notice or pay enough attention to our daughter鈥檚 physical health. We eat mostly healthy, as I do most of the cooking, but we eat a lot and we鈥檙e not a very athletic family.

Now that she鈥檚 away at university, she鈥檚 completely responsible and independent as far as when and what she eats. She鈥檚 started running, eats very healthy foods and healthy quantities. She鈥檚 now very fit and what most people would consider thin.

Back to my issue: she now wears clothes that show off her slim figure. In my opinion, they show off a little too much. She鈥檒l leave the house in a bra, with an oversized zip-up hoodie, unzipped all the way, leaving nothing to the imagination. And she wears sports leggings that emphasize every muscle in her very toned legs and butt.

I see the way people look at her when she walks down the street and as her mother, I want to throw a blanket over her head. How do I deal with this?

Practically Naked

础听I like that you recognize that this is your issue and not hers. Because she doesn鈥檛 need to change a thing. She鈥檚 an adult and can dress any way she likes. She鈥檚 proud of her figure and wants to show it off. She鈥檚 worked hard to look the way she does. However, as her parent, you have a right to tell her how you feel, and to voice your concerns.

Out of respect for you, she could zip up her hoodie. More importantly, she needs to be aware that she鈥檚 attracting attention and take precautions for her own safety.

FEEDBACK Regarding the too-young couple (Feb. 8):

Reader: 鈥淗ave they discussed long-term marital goals, such as money management, children, relationship with their respective families, etc.

鈥淢y husband and I were 24 and 20, respectively, different religions, when we married as students; he was disowned. My cousin and her husband were 21 and 17; he dropped out in Grade 11 following his father鈥檚 suicide while she, raised in foster care, dropped out in Grade 9. My Italian father, twice widowed, was three times as old as my Canadian mother, and neither had much formal education. Yet all three marriages were very good and lasted 30 to 40 years before the husbands鈥� deaths.

鈥淢y close friend married a university classmate a few years after their graduation. Both were from similar backgrounds (good childhoods, same religion and ethnicity, supportive parents) and both with excellent professional careers. They divorced within 18 months.

鈥淣either assets, education, cultural background nor age were predictive of the success of these marriages. Rather, maturity, realistic attitudes, responsibility, and sharing similar goals were the important factors.鈥�