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And that happens when I鈥檓 sitting right there. What happens when I鈥檓 not there? I don鈥檛 want to come across as a jealous partner, but it really bothers me.

How do I handle this?

Juggling Jealousy

础听I hate to tell you this, but this is a you problem. I鈥檓 assuming his flirtation only happens at work, and he鈥檚 never acted on any of it. That鈥檚 a big assumption, but you didn鈥檛 mention any flirtatious activity outside of his work, or even a hint he鈥檚 cheated on you.

So it鈥檚 his actions at work that get your goat, and I understand that. I wouldn鈥檛 like to see my partner flirting with other women night after night either. But your boyfriend comes home to you every night. He has, I imagine, explained to you that he needs to be a bit flirty.

Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Ask him if he can curb the flirtation even more, especially when you鈥檙e around. Tell him you need a little more validation.

Then figure out how to not let it get to you.

蚕听A few nights ago I went out for a late-night dog walk on my own. I usually go with my girlfriend but she was still out with friends, and I wanted to go to bed. While out, I heard a woman talking loudly though I couldn鈥檛 figure out where she was or what she was saying. I turned a corner and didn鈥檛 hear her anymore, then I turned another corner and heard her again.

As I came by a parkette, I saw a woman sitting alone on a bench, crying. I asked if she was OK, but I didn鈥檛 approach her. She said yes and shooed me away. There was something uncomfortable about her response so I left quickly, raced home and called 911.

How am I ever going to find out if she was OK? I鈥檓 literally losing sleep over it. And my girlfriend is annoyed because I won鈥檛 let her walk anywhere in our neighbourhood at night alone anymore.

So Concerned

A I believe you did the right thing by calling the police. At the very least, they were dispatched to the area, found nothing untoward and that woman was just having a bad day. Knowing someone out there cared probably meant something to her.

If she was still there when they arrived, the police would have assessed the situation and dealt with it accordingly.

Unfortunately, once you call in an emergency to 911, you can鈥檛 call back and get information. It鈥檚 a privacy issue. You don鈥檛 know the people involved and they don鈥檛 know you.

I strongly suggest you speak to a professional to sort through your emotions. Your concern for your girlfriend鈥檚 safety is commendable, but you don鈥檛 want her to feel controlled or unnecessarily scared.

FEEDBACK Regarding the Mother鈥檚 Day mom (May 28):

Reader 鈥淔irst, kudos to this mom. It is hard work, and you鈥檙e doing an amazing job with your children.

鈥淢y gut feeling is the husband/father here is a narcissist, and the way in which he only half-completes looking after his children (the sloppy vomit clean, taking his sweet time) is manipulative. He leaves his wife sitting on the bathroom floor trying to nurse their baby while their daughter is crying. This speaks volumes that he doesn鈥檛 care about her.

鈥淪he wonders if it鈥檚 okay that she鈥檚 angry, showing her insecurity, a perfect victim for a manipulative narcissist. The best help for her at this stage is to build her safety net: supportive family, friends, neighbours, therapist, doctor. It will be helpful for her to keep a diary. She needs help she鈥檚 not getting from her husband. She needs community resources for women.鈥�