What does your love life hold in the year ahead? For your personalized forecast, call our $250 per second hotline at 1-800-NOT-REAL to speak to one of our paper fortune teller readers. (That鈥檚 a joke, to be clear, not unlike the unfunny farce that modern dating can sometimes feel like.)
For actual trends in how people will be looking for The One, or just a bit of fun, in the year to come, we tapped dating experts for their grounded-in-truth prognostications on what will shape the love landscape in 2024. Their crystal balls foretell some fascinating shifts in not just how but why we鈥檒l be dating in the year to come.
1. Back to the basics
Remember all those stories of how people in your parents鈥 generation met at the roller skating rink or at an ice-cream social in a church basement? Well, it鈥檚 predicted that daters of a younger vintage will embrace this retro way of meeting potential love interests.
鈥淭here is definitely a return to the basics, meaning [meeting] organically through shared interests or groups, as well as revisiting their existing network of friends and acquaintances for introductions or connections,鈥 says Chantal Landreville, a certified love and relationship coach whose book, “Raise Your Love Signal: A Guide to Attracting and Keeping the Love of Your Life” is out on Valentine鈥檚 Day. Her tip, if you want to get in on this: 鈥淓mbrace the possibility of meeting people naturally in any setting by being observant and open, exchanging smiles instead of being so absorbed in phones.鈥
2. The high-school-crush revival
Another offline dating trend is growing tendency to cast back in our pasts for the ones who got away. 鈥淚ndividuals are reaching out to past high school or college sweethearts, and surprisingly, there are many success stories,鈥 Landreville says. 鈥淐onsidering the significant changes and personal growth that occur over 20 to 30 years, some may be newly separated or have experienced transformative life events. Reconnecting with old connections is proving worthwhile, as timing appears to be a crucial factor in these scenarios.鈥 Time to dust off that yearbook?
3. Relationship definitions blur
鈥淣ATO鈥 dating 鈥 as in, 鈥渘ot attached to the outcome鈥 鈥 has come to the fore, according to Tinder鈥檚 2023 year-end trend report. 鈥淚nstead of rushing into a 鈥榟appily ever after,鈥 they鈥檙e focusing on using the dating journey to accumulate a roster of new experiences and memories that enhance their personal stories,鈥 says Paul C. Brunson, Tinder鈥檚 global relationship insights expert. Bad date, good date, getting ghosted: It鈥檚 all fodder for the memoir.
Fretting over those old relationship definition binaries is also out, and embracing intentional ambiguity is in. 鈥淗istorically, relationships have very distinctly fallen into categories. You鈥檙e either friends, or you鈥檙e romantically involved,鈥 says Julie Schwartz, co-founder of the 鈥渇eel good chat app鈥 Phori, which is an AI-enhanced service that lets you search for a relationship, a friendship or something in between. 鈥淚nstead of centring the app around the pressure of finding someone who fits neatly into a box for you, users come with no 鈥榮erious鈥 agenda. [They] may be looking to banter, for advice, to flirt, to share a confession, or they may just be bored.鈥
4. Digital-first socializing
The rise in remote work and resulting loss of IRL connections has caused a seismic social shift that鈥檚 particularly impacting younger daters, many of whom came of age during the pandemic.
鈥淭he unintended consequences of remote work are that people socialize less in real life. Spontaneity, organic relationships and run-ins are almost untenable 鈥 there鈥檚 a lot less 鈥榣et鈥檚 grab a drink after work鈥 or 鈥業 met someone interesting in the elevator bank鈥 when you鈥檙e working from your couch in your pyjamas all day,鈥 says Schwartz. 鈥淎s a result, Gen Z has turned to online forums, dating and friendship apps, video games and other social media apps for connection, which has led to an abyss of options rooted in the superficiality of looks and likes.鈥
One consequence of this almost exclusively digital existence? 鈥淲e鈥檙e seeing dating app burnout, especially amongst Gen Z and Millennials,鈥 Schwartz says. 鈥淭here鈥檚 a paralysis of choice. When you鈥檙e always in search of the next best thing, you tend to dismiss any 鈥榬ed鈥 or 鈥榖eige鈥 flags from the get-go, searching for someone who is seemingly 鈥榩erfect.鈥欌
5. Mental health takes precedence
The emotional toll of online dating 鈥 the matches that don鈥檛 reply back, the ones you chat with fruitlessly for a year, the ones you do meet IRL but then ghost you 鈥 is seeing many daters scale back their efforts or stop altogether.
This has been coined 鈥渃onsidered dating,鈥 says Bumble鈥檚 sex and relationship expert Shan Boodram. 鈥淢ore than half of singles are more open about their mental health, and they鈥檙e making a concerted effort to slow down,鈥 she says. 鈥淧eople are seeing dating as an extension of their mental health practices.鈥
This also means people are more likely to extend grace to someone who cancels a date because they鈥檙e having a bad mental-health day of their own, she says. 鈥淐onsidered dating is not just acknowledging our own needs in dating, but extending that to other people.鈥
6. Money talk
There鈥檚 an overall focus on 鈥渉onesty and clarity鈥 in relationships, says Boodram, whether you鈥檙e doing roster dating (seeing multiple people at once) or dating exclusively to find a long-term partner.
Part of that is 鈥渃ash candidness,鈥 a growing movement toward financial transparency in dating, particularly stating expectations about how extravagant (or not) dates should be. 鈥淧eople are being upfront about what they can do, and what they want to do,鈥 says Boodram. 鈥淭hese are healthy conversations about where we draw the line between being frugal, and not even giving a person the opportunity to enjoy themselves.鈥 A grand gesture that the other person didn鈥檛 realize was a huge splurge for you? Not in this economy!
Brunson also thinks the current economic climate will shape dating this year. 鈥淲ith higher prices for everyday needs, we expect that people will be more intentional with where they spend their time and money,鈥 he says. 鈥淵oung daters will lean into the 鈥榡oy economy, looking for special experiences that bring happiness in an uncertain future.鈥 Think: more free dates like walks combined with the odd concert or event.
7. Coming as you are
鈥淲e鈥檙e just tired of having to be skinnier, prettier, smarter, more woke,鈥 says Boodram, articulating a trend dubbed 鈥淏etterment Burnout.鈥 While personal growth is great, she continues, there鈥檚 a point where you need a break from trying to be better than before. 鈥淲ith that comes acceptance for people not to be their 鈥榓fter,鈥 whatever that is.鈥
8. Less focus on milestones
鈥淭here鈥檚 something really wonderful happening called the 鈥榯imeline decline,鈥欌 says Boodram. An increasing number of people, women in particular, are letting go of the tired scripts that say you need to be married by a certain age 鈥 or at all. 鈥淓very generation prior to ours was on what鈥檚 called the 鈥榬elationship escalator,鈥 and it moved so much quicker,鈥 she says. 鈥淣ot only are they slowing it down, they鈥檙e getting off it altogether. It鈥檚 just not that meaningful for them to couple up for the sake of coupling up.鈥
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