School is back in session, bringing new routines 鈥 and new milestones for students.
For some, this is the year they are allowed to go home to an empty house instead of an after-school program or day care. It鈥檚 a decision faced by many parents whose work or other obligations keep them from coming home until long past school release time.
With often expensive and hard to find, parents have reason to encourage independence. But how can they be sure their child is ready to navigate home on their own, even if only for an hour or two?
A handful of states have set age minimums. Maryland law, for example, makes it a crime to leave a child younger than 8 years old unattended.
But most states leave it up to parents and guardians. Experts say between 11 and 13 years old can be a good starting point, but stress there鈥檚 more to the equation than age. And they say what鈥檚 right for one child may not be for another, even within a family.
鈥淚t鈥檚 not a one-size-fits-all ordeal. And you really have to take it and understand the bigger picture,鈥 said Jaesha Quarrels, director of child care services at Oklahoma Human Services. 鈥淚nadequate supervision is a key factor in many preventable childhood injuries and neglect cases.鈥
Here鈥檚 what experts say to consider when deciding whether a child is ready to be home alone:
Consider maturity and skills in addition to age
The American Academy of Pediatrics says most children are not ready to handle emergencies until about age 11 or 12, so the organization generally recommends structured supervision until then.
But it鈥檚 not that simple.
Parents often want a specific answer on how old their kids have to be, but age is only one of the factors to consider, said Brian Tessmer, director of treatment and operations at Family Resources, a nonprofit agency in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.
鈥淲e really strongly encourage parents to look at many other factors because kids, obviously mature at different rates.鈥
At minimum, children should be able to recite their full name, home address, phone number and the name of a parent, guardian or other emergency contact. They should also know how to reach that person, experts advise.
Other things to consider are whether a child can follow rules, handle routines and keep themselves occupied with homework, toys or electronic devices.
Can they dial the phone? Fix themselves a snack? Do they know where the bandages are if they need one? What if there鈥檚 a tornado warning, if they smell something burning or if a carbon monoxide detector goes off? Do they know how and when to dial 911?
They can do it. Do they want to?
Even having all that knowledge doesn鈥檛 mean a child is ready to get off the school bus at an unoccupied house, experts said. At a time of for American children, there is also emotional readiness to consider.
鈥淥ftentimes as parents, because it鈥檚 convenient 鈥 we鈥檙e busy, we have things that we have to do 鈥 we just kind of leave them alone,鈥 Quarrels said. 鈥淏ut we need to consider how the child feels. Are they confident? Can they handle loneliness, fear or boredom?鈥
Communication is key, Tessmer said.
鈥淚t鈥檚 a great opportunity to explain to the child that this is a milestone that we鈥檙e coming up to as a family, and we鈥檙e exploring this opportunity because we do feel like you are getting to a point where you鈥檙e ready for this type of trust. We have confidence in you,鈥 he said.
A child home alone should have no doubts about what they鈥檙e allowed to do, and even more importantly, not allowed to do, experts said.
Stoves and ovens should be off limits, as well as matches, candles and lighters. Children should be instructed to stay inside, not open the door to anyone unless they鈥檝e been told in advance, and to never reveal that they鈥檙e alone on social media, gaming apps or to callers.
鈥淢ake sure your house rules are visible and reviewed frequently,鈥 said Quarrels, who recommended having prepackaged snacks or meals handy.
Practice, start slowly and take advantage of technology
To further reduce anxiety, Quarrels recommends role-playing scenarios like handling a doorbell and dialing 911.
And start small, she said. Parents can test the waters by leaving a child inside while they鈥檙e in the backyard or taking a walk around the block, she said.
Smartphones and the availability of home security systems that enable real-time monitoring and communication can also put children, and parents, at ease.
鈥淎lways check in on a regular basis with your child if you鈥檙e going to be gone longer than 15 to 30 minutes,鈥 Tessmer said. 鈥淔ortunately, in this age with cellphones and tablets it can be pretty easy. You can have your kids text, you can schedule a quick call, Facetime, send photos to each other to ease any anxieties.鈥
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